5 best tricks to control your anger

Anger and aggression.

5 best tricks to control your anger which cause aggression.

What is anger and aggression.

Anger is an emotion characterized by enmity toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Whereas

  Aggression is a behaviour in which we harm others

Anger can be a good thing because it gives you a way to express your negative feeling, the thing you don’t like you say it all, anger can give you motivation to face all yours hurdles and come over them and find solutions of your problems but the thing that leads you to aggression from anger when you have no idea which way is the best to show anger and tell others what you don’t like

Too much anger can cause many serious health problems for example high blood pressure, heart attack, depression and can also lead to relationship problems and can damage your mental and physical health.

When you get angry you can often burst out on others with your words and actions. Anger is a problem if people around you gets hurt. When you get angry you need to remember to deal with it within a save way and learn to communicate with other in a way which is not harmful or hurt others.

Anger does not solve anything but it can destroy your peace of mind.

Whereas

Aggression is the result of anger which leads to violent behavior. Aggression can also be said as intent to harm others because your intention does matter in aggression. To know your intention perception matters because you give meaning to others intentions it according to your perception then you get angry and show aggressive behavior.

Two causes of aggression

Frustration

Frustration can lead you to aggression.

What is frustration?

Hurdles to achieve your goal and disappointment leads to frustration.

in families where there is economic issues which does not allow them to achieve their goals in life creates frustration and then frustration cause aggression and aggression leads in high number of crimes.

  Attack

when someone attacks you, it is possible that you will show aggression

when you perceive threat from others whether in words or in actions you will definitely show aggression.

In both these causes your perception matters a lot.

5 best tricks to control your anger

 Identify your problem

First of all, identify your problem. Knowing what is actually happening with you is the best way to identify your cause of anger. Whenever you get angry you have always some underling though that comes in your mind when something wrong happened. You have to identify that thought which is disturbing you

Ask yourself do you have anger issue?

Start asking yourself “do I have anger issue?” but how can u identify that. Surely this article will help you a lot. Few symptoms that help you to identify do you have anger issues.

Symptom
Easily frustrated
Easily irritable
Low tolerance level
 Always blame yourself
Always blame other
Do not realize your mistake
  Easily burst out
Filter out negative meaning to someone intentions

Ask question before action

Ask before expressing your anger, in this heat of moment it is possible to say something that you will regret later. Be calm and ask question. If someone did wrong to you and said something unacceptable then ask these questions.

  How can you say that?

 Do you have some issue with me?

Why you are behaving like this?

By asking questions you will find out the real intention. Mind reading is not the good solution and this will cause misunderstandings and off course misunderstanding leads to anger and anger leads to aggression.

Locus of control

The locus of control is a framework for understanding people’s perception of the controlling factors in their lives. People may have an internal locus of control or an external locus of control.

Few people have a purely internal or external locus of control, and people may vacillate between attributing their circumstances and reactions to external and internal factors.

  Internal locus

People with an internal locus of control tend to believe that they control their own reactions and emotional states. An emotional reaction is the product of internal processes. For example, a person with an internal locus of control might view his struggles with anger management as a result of an undeveloped ability to control his emotions and react appropriately.

                                         External locus

People with an external locus of control tend to view their lives, emotions, and perceptions as circumstance-dependent. In this framework, reactions are dependent upon what is going on around the person rather than what is going on inside of the person. For example, a person who struggles with anger management and believes she has an external locus of control might blame her difficulty controlling her reactions on her spouse’s nagging, her bullying boss, financial pressures, or other external factors

Assertiveness

Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. In the field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is a learnable skill and mode of communication

4 steps of assertiveness

Specify the situation

What it affects you

 Say it all how you felt

Clarify others don’t do this again to me

Ask a psychologist

if these tricks do not help you then ask a psychologist because anger can destroy your psychological and physical health and can lead you to harm yourself and those who are around you.

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